4 Secrets To Powerful Communication Lisa Nichols

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This is Lisa Nichols and what she has been able to accomplish in her life time, as a single mom, 20 years ago she could barely afford to buy diapers for her baby. Lisa Nichols is now one of 2 african american women business owners/ entrepreneurs. She has touched the lives of 20 million people in this year alone. In a mere 19 years, its incredible how someone could come this far. In 2010 Lisa Nichols spoke at Costa Rica – Afest. December 11. 

there are no accidents, there are divine appointments. synergies come together. Lisa has now spoken at every single A Fest , in 9 different countries, closing the event with her brilliance. 

Your going to learn what makes lisa such an insanely powerful woman. The ability to move people with a story, is what she is incredible at doing. We are going to learn what she does, how she does it and how it is applied. It is her gift, although it can be anyones skill set. Some of these techniques as a communicator, you use your super powers with the you from your conscious to your subconscious. Unconscious competence, she is consciously competent – but she can break it down into 30 different steps. She has taught 420 different speakers all over the world. Lisa is one of the highest paid trainers in the world, join her global leadership program. She has a phd entrepreneurship program, and its only in harnessing and using your message that you can cultivate what is delivered. Our ability to communicate- you change as a human being. Consider communication to be a set of words, you can add texture to it. Your unique serving proposition. Your USP. Lisa had a viral youtube post where 42 million observers have seen this video from 2014. Observing how she is articulating her story. 

Lisa has been through bankruptcy, having 11.42 dollars in her pocket, not able to buy diapers for her son, but then she decided to transform her babies life. She was a single mother, and had a father in prison. If she was going to drastically transform herself, she was going to do it. What is fascinating is that twenty minutes of content , intellectual exchange was not attached, what they connected to like glue, was the story. the possibility, the hope, the connection. 100’s of thousands of emails were received. What this story did for them was tap them into their resiliency, She then began to work with Steve harvey and other people around the scene. They knew what she stood for, she was real, she was broken and she was strong enough to stand up for inspiring people to get back up again, when she was knocked down. 

Knowing how powerful the story could be, she gave up something, she braced herself and calmed herself down. She served up something to America. They loved her, they wanted her to succeed , the realness, the vigor, the story, the inspiration. If you study great orators , they have a formula, they would start with a story, and then the secret she was one of the most wanted speakers in the speakers. Everyone was able to connect to her story. Never forget where you come from , no matter how far you have come. 

4 secrets to powerful communication- this will elevate you on a stage and its not from a place of competition its  a place for stories, audience of 1 or audiences of 1000. When your taking someone on an intellectual journey, you have to educate them, to get them to the cement to the bricks. It makes everything else matter. Listeners have context. Great story, time and a place, a year, and a place, then paint the picture of where they are what is happening. Think of it as a movie, Where in the world are you.  Bring me into the story and let me know where you are, pictures into your life, brings you into a part of me. Impactful stories need to have to fall in love with the characters, If you want to have power in life, you need to go deep. Style, who they are, dramatic, audiences want the performance, content, visual arts, texture.Best engagers, are so intriguing because they are so detailed and real. You can learn your visual content but they fall in love with you its from the stories, the gift to themselves, a great story , told well enough is an unforgettable experience. You want to be the one people remember! Intellect, Respect, and you can still be an entertainer.

At 6 years old Lisa Nichols knew she wanted to be a motivational speaker, She told her grandmother, then her grandmother told her she needed to read her speeches with the world, and thats when she realized she needed to inflict her stories upon the world. 

Secret vs TELLING- show me the story, all of a sudden I’m looking at an oral movie, game changer, captivating the audience, riveted by the story, they don’t want to miss one minute of your oral story. Its a skill set, hone and learn and master like any other skill set. Parameters need to be set, climate, city, tell you less and show you more. The listener then becomes a part of your journey. You tap into a void or a conformation. What they give you back as a result is loyalty. Now Lisa, confident and elegant touching 30 million lives a year. However, in 1994, she had her son and she had no where to go with him. This was her rockbottom, she could literally feel the ground on her back, two things happened, never hear again and two she wasn’t afraid what could happen from that point on.  She knew she had to get up and keep going. She Was emotionally scared. However, then playing at that 50 percent had become her 100 percent. Misery is what navigated her to realize she will never go back there again. 

Sharing content, teaching people things, entertaining intermission. bringing out emotions in other people. Its real! be you! Authenticity- you don’t have to make up anything, the truth is sexy, its chaos, its resilient, its unidentified, its an incident , a moment, when your faith was challenged. Or you could be the man or woman you thought you could always be. Fight for your perseverance, fight for your life,  fight for a man or a woman. 

She pulled out the extra strength tylenol, wanting to kill herself, she didn’t want to die, she didn’t want to live with this kind of pain. She wasn’t sure if 8 was going to kill her, so she prayed to god and asked her to bring her back into the light. Then she said that she would spend the rest of her life helping others find there light. This was Lisas real transformation, this is when she knew that she was going to do wonderful things for others. How powerful storytelling can be, these emotions running wild, know matter who your talking to, they will all have the same reaction. why? because its real, its potent and its powerful. No matter what title people have, they are a man and a woman, and she has mastered the ability to take you in, take you back out and why play safe when you can play POWERFUL. EVOKING emotion- letting people in, in this day of being connected to everyone , we tend to be connected to know one. Unless you tell a story, provoking. It is what happens to us into the darkness, that pushes us into the light. Sometimes those moments, even though painful, they are the gifts from heaven, to wake us up for what we are meant to do in the world. 

Being a game changer, have a conviction, your conviction and your convenience won’t ever live on the same block. They don’t want someone to have a different opinion then them. Martin Luther King Jr said if you don’t stand for anything, then you will fall for everything. What are you going to influence because you are here. Still inside every space, what you say when your not speaking. What is your sweat? What do you stand for? Melting walls, owning their voices, Breaking barriers, and stand for that thing that means everything to you. Stand for it the way you would stand for it. There is no measure that of the value that you bring to the world. Unity, would never be a problem ever again. These stories don’t just deliver a speech, they lead you to your mission. Bringing together people of different cultures is the most beautiful thing in the world. Segway that was made so clear has to be fueled by your conviction. How do you want to use your voice? Impact, Infect, Change, Charge- who you are is everything. Get clear on what you stand for. Own your whisper until it gets stronger. Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Ghandi or Martin Luther King Jr, yes they were incredible, but you don’t have to be them, be your own person. Benjamin Franklin says don’t measure your conviction to someone else’s, that is the thief of all joy. 

As a businesswoman, as a mother, more importantly allow us to feel it, because you just started speaking. The way you were willing to forgive the unforgivable. Incorporate, Transparency, Conviction and they will search for you giving you their heart, their loyalty. Lisa was the new girl in the secret, but she still shared her story and owned it! Within 72 hours of her being on Oprah, she received 9782 emails because of her story. You have no idea what doors your story will open up. They take you into a private place, well, they make you vulnerable, everyone wants to know the real invigorating, honest you. Share a moment when things weren’t so great, don’t walk it through so fast, show me 12345678 pills in your hand, or the connection that is impotent. When your speaking to an audience it could be 500 people , you are speaking to each individual, they came to be inspired. Resilience, inspiration, climbing over something, around something, breaking through something, and then the heroes journey, is always the most exciting. We think we are the underdogs, until we make it. We will be alright, no matter how many people are in your audience, the gift you give them will make them fall madly in love with you. Inspiration, your never too big for inspiration. You always need inspiration. You can always use a light. Connection, trust and they will give you love, loyalty and word of mouth. 

Slow down, hit the speed bump, Take your time, give me the gift of the journey. 15-17 different techniques of story telling. Pillars and techniques, each technique independent of the others. when you put them all together , you layer them like a cake, a lasagna.. learn and master them independently and then it becomes interdependently powerful. Opportunities, gathering as a tribe, people want others to learn and teach from others. Its so easy to find an audience, the question is being able to connect with that audience in a profound way. When you connect though, its remarkable. Be better with communication and your ideas heard. A massive boost to your entire presence to your career and your life as a whole. 

Owner and Founder At The Goddess Bibles

A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Becoming Your Inner Goddess

Goddess of Light, Love and Serenity

Altered States of Consciousness without drugs

“Although the use of psychoactive drugs can easily and profoundly change our experience of consciousness, we can also—and often more safely—alter our consciousness without drugs. These altered states of consciousness are sometimes the result of simple and safe activities, such as sleeping, watching television, exercising, or working on a task that intrigues us. In this section we consider the changes in consciousness that occur through hypnosis, sensory deprivation, and meditation, as well as through other non-drug-induced mechanisms.

“Changing Behavior Through Suggestion: The Power of Hypnosis


Franz Anton Mesmer (1734–1815) was an Austrian doctor who believed that all living bodies were filled with magnetic energy. In his practice, Mesmer passed magnets over the bodies of his patients while telling them their physical and psychological problems would disappear. The patients frequently lapsed into a trancelike state (they were said to be “mesmerized”) and reported feeling better when they awoke (Hammond, 2008). [1]


Although subsequent research testing the effectiveness of Mesmer’s techniques did not find any long-lasting improvements in his patients, the idea that people’s experiences and behaviors could be changed through the power of suggestion has remained important in psychology. James Braid, a Scottish physician, coined the term hypnosis in 1843, basing it on the Greek word for sleep (Callahan, 1997). [2]

“Hypnosis is a trance-like state of consciousness, usually induced by a procedure known as hypnotic induction, which consists of heightened suggestibility, deep relaxation, and intense focus (Nash & Barnier, 2008). [3] Hypnosis became famous in part through its use by Sigmund Freud in an attempt to make unconscious desires and emotions conscious and thus able to be considered and confronted (Baker & Nash, 2008). [4]


Because hypnosis is based on the power of suggestion, and because some people are more suggestible than others, these people are more easily hypnotized. Hilgard (1965) [5] found that about 20% of the participants he tested were entirely unsusceptible to hypnosis, whereas about 15% were highly responsive to it. The best participants for hypnosis are people who are willing or eager to be hypnotized, who are able to focus their attention and block out peripheral awareness, who are open to new experiences, and who are capable of fantasy (Spiegel, Greenleaf, & Spiegel, 2005). [6]

“People who want to become hypnotized are motivated to be good subjects, to be open to suggestions by the hypnotist, and to fulfill the role of a hypnotized person as they perceive it (Spanos, 1991). [7] The hypnotized state results from a combination of conformity, relaxation, obedience, and suggestion (Fassler, Lynn, & Knox, 2008). [8] This does not necessarily indicate that hypnotized people are “faking” or lying about being hypnotized. Kinnunen, Zamansky, and Block (1994) [9] ”

“used measures of skin conductance (which indicates emotional response by measuring perspiration, and therefore renders it a reliable indicator of deception) to test whether hypnotized people were lying about having been hypnotized. Their results suggested that almost 90% of their supposedly hypnotized subjects truly believed that they had been hypnotized.

“One common misconception about hypnosis is that the hypnotist is able to “take control” of hypnotized patients and thus can command them to engage in behaviors against their will. Although hypnotized people are suggestible (Jamieson & Hasegawa, 2007), [10] they nevertheless retain awareness and control of their behavior and are able to refuse to comply with the hypnotist’s suggestions if they so choose (Kirsch & Braffman, 2001). [11] In fact, people who have not been hypnotized are often just as suggestible as those who have been (Orne & Evans, 1965). [12]

“Another common belief is that hypnotists can lead people to forget the things that happened to them while they were hypnotized. Hilgard and Cooper (1965)[13] investigated this question and found that they could lead people who were very highly susceptible through hypnosis to show at least some signs of posthypnotic amnesia (e.g., forgetting where they had learned information that had been told to them while they were under hypnosis), but that this effect was not strong or common.

“Some hypnotists have tried to use hypnosis to help people remember events, such as childhood experiences or details of crime scenes, that they have forgotten or repressed. The idea is that some memories have been stored but can no longer be retrieved, and that hypnosis can aid in the retrieval process. But research finds that this is not successful: People who are hypnotized and then asked to relive their childhood act like children, but they do not accurately recall the things that occurred to them in their own childhood (Silverman & Retzlaff, 1986). [14] Furthermore, the suggestibility produced through hypnosis may lead people to erroneously recall experiences that they did not have (Newman & Baumeister, 1996). [15] Many states and jurisdictions have therefore banned the use of hypnosis in criminal trials because the “evidence” recovered through hypnosis is likely to be fabricated and inaccurate.

“Hypnosis is also frequently used to attempt to change unwanted behaviors, such as to reduce smoking, overeating, and alcohol abuse. The effectiveness of hypnosis in these areas is controversial, although at least some successes have been reported. Kirsch, Montgomery, and Sapirstein (1995) [16] found that that adding hypnosis to other forms of therapies increased the effectiveness of the treatment, and Elkins and Perfect (2008) [17] reported that hypnosis was useful in helping people stop smoking. Hypnosis is also effective in improving the experiences of patients who are experiencing anxiety disorders, such as PTSD (Cardena, 2000; Montgomery, David, Winkel, Silverstein, & Bovbjerg, 2002),[18] and for reducing pain (Montgomery, DuHamel, & Redd, 2000; Paterson & Jensen, 2003). [19]

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Laura Zukerman

Owner and Founder

At The Goddess Bibles, A Memoir

Psychology As A Science

“Despite the differences in their interests, areas of study, and approaches, all psychologists have one thing in common: They rely on scientific methods. Research psychologists use scientific methods to create new knowledge about the causes of behavior, whereas psychologist- practitioners, such as clinical, counseling, industrial-organizational, and school psychologists, use existing research to enhance the everyday life of others. The science of psychology is important for both researchers and practitioners.
In a sense all humans are scientists. We all have an interest in asking and answering questions about our world. We want to know why things happen, when and if they are likely to happen again, and how to reproduce or change them. Such knowledge enables us to predict our own behavior and that of others. We may even collect data (i.e., any information collected through formal observation or measurement) to aid us in this undertaking. It has been argued that people are “everyday scientists” who conduct research projects to answer questions about behavior (Nisbett & Ross, 1980).

“Levels of Explanation in Psychology
The study of psychology spans many different topics at many different levels of explanation, which are the perspectives that are used to understand behavior. Lower levels of explanation are more closely tied to biological influences, such as genes, neurons, neurotransmitters, and hormones, whereas the middle levels of explanation refer to the abilities and characteristics of individual people, and the highest levels of explanation relate to social groups, organizations, and cultures (Cacioppo, Berntson, Sheridan, & McClintock, 2000). [7]

“The same topic can be studied within psychology at different levels of explanation, as shownin Figure 1.3 “Levels of Explanation”. For instance, the psychological disorder known as depression affects millions of people worldwide and is known to be caused by biological, social, and cultural factors. Studying and helping alleviate depression can be accomplished at low levels of explanation by investigating how chemicals in the brain influence the experience of depression. This approach has allowed psychologists to develop and prescribe drugs, such as Prozac, which may decrease depression in many individuals (Williams, Simpson, Simpson, & Nahas, 2009). ”

“At the middle levels of explanation, psychological therapy is directed at helping individuals cope with negative life experiences that may cause depression. And at the highest level, psychologists study differences in the prevalence of depression between men and women and across cultures. The occurrence of psychological disorders, including depression, is substantially higher for women than for men, and it is also higher in Western cultures, such as in the United States, Canada, and Europe, than in Eastern cultures, such as in India, China, and Japan (Chen, Wang, Poland, & Lin, 2009; Seedat et al., 2009). [9] These sex and cultural differences provide insight into the factors that cause depression. The study of depression in psychology helps remind us that no one level of explanation can explain everything. All levels of explanation, from biological to personal to cultural, are essential for a better understanding of human behavior.”

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A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Ambition and Type


¶ Now what is it that causes some to have ambition and others to lack it?

Your ambitions take the form determined by your predominating physiological system. For instance, in every great singer the Thoracic has been present either as the first or second element.

The effect of the physical upon our talents is no more marked anywhere than here. For it is his unusual lung power, his high chest, the sounding boards in his nose section and his superior vocal cords that make the real foundation of every singer’s fame. These physiological conditions are found in extreme degree only in persons of thoracic tendencies.

It was the great lung-power of Caruso that made him a great singer. It was his remarkable heart-power that brought him through an illness in February, 1921, when every newspaper in the world carried on its front page the positive statement that he could not live another day. That he lived for six months afterward was due chiefly to his remarkable heart.

The nature resulting from a large heart and large lungs is one distinctly different from all others—in short, the Thoracic nature.

“The Best Dressed
¶ The best dressed man and the best dressed woman in your town belong predominantly to this type. This is no accident. The Thoracics, being possessed of acute eye senses, are more sensitive to color and line than any other type. These are the foundations of “style” and artistic grooming.

Clothes Can Unmake the Man
¶ Being desirous of the approval of others and realizing that though clothes do not make the man they can unmake him, this type looks to his laurels on this point.

Because clothes determine the first impressions we make upon strangers and because that impression is difficult to change, clothes are of vast importance in this maze of human relationships.

The Thoracic is more sensitive to the attitude of others because their attitude is more vital to his self-expression. He senses from childhood the bearing that clothes have for or against him in the opinion of others and how they can aid him to express his personality.”

“The Glass of Fashion
¶ The Thoracic therefore often becomes “the glass of fashion and the mold of form.” His consciousness of himself is so keen that, even when alone, he prefers those things in dress which are at once fine, fancy and fashionable.

Some types are indifferent to clothes, some ignorant of clothes and some defiant in their clothes but the Thoracic always has a keen sense of fitness in the matter of apparel.

Distinction in Dress
¶ The distinctive dresser is one who essays the extremely fashionable, the “last moment” touch. He is always a step or two ahead of the times. His ties, handbags, handkerchiefs and stick pins are “up to the minute.” Such a man or woman invariably has a large thoracic development and is well repaid by the public for his pains.

Dress the Universal Language
¶ The public looks more eagerly than we suppose to changes in styles and fads. It gives, in spite of itself, instantaneous admiration of a sort to those who follow the dictates of fashion. This being one of the quickest roads to adulation, it is often utilized by this type.”

“The Newest in Hairdressing
¶ The latest thing in coiffures is always known by the Thoracic woman. And because she is, more often than any other type, a beautiful woman she can wear her hair in almost any style and find it becoming.

So when puffs were the thing this type of woman not only wore puffs but the most extreme and numerous puffs. When the “sticking-to-the-face” style was in vogue she bought much bandoline and essayed the sleekest and shiniest head of all. When the ear-bun raged she changed those same paper-like curls over night into veritable young sofa cushions.”

“Always on “Dress Parade”
¶ With intent to keep the spotlight on himself the Thoracic is always on dress parade. He is vividly aware of himself; he knows what kind of picture he is making. He is seldom “self-conscious,” in the sense of being timid. When he does happen to be timid he suffers, by reason of his greater desire for approval, more acutely than any other type.”

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A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Our Mind and Body Are Connected the As If Method

Our mind and body are connected. It’s true. Although many people think that they are separate, they actually hold great influence over each other. When you work on one aspect of self, you impact the other. Let me explain this. Have you ever felt really nervous? I know I have. Your mind may race, and your nerves jangle and these thoughts and feelings manifest on a physical level too. Have you ever experienced that dry mouth and headache when you were nervous and worried about what was to come?


It’s important to understand the mind and body connection. Let’s say you are waiting to be interviewed for a job and you become so nervous and are worried about your abilities. Let’s face it. It’s easy to be plagued by qualms and to start running a negative script in your mind. But think back to that experience, I bet it wasn’t just your mind that was affected but your body too. You may have felt a little nauseous while your tummy did somersaults and maybe, you even started sweating a bit. This proves that your thoughts and your emotions affect you on a physical level.

“If you feel stressed or have unresolved issues, they will only play havoc with your mind and body. If thoughts are negative, you really must identify and resolve them as it could lead to unhealthy behaviors and, you may even find you become unwell or ill. Of course, I am not implying that every single illness or accident that occurs is because of your mindset, but believe me, it plays a significant role. If you can understand this, you will be able to take greater control of your life.


Try thinking of your life as a big jigsaw puzzle, this really worked for me. I looked at each aspect of my life, breaking key elements into smaller pieces. I did this and learned that each part of my life had a significant role to play. When one part didn’t function well, it affected everything else. You cannot ignore the importance of your thoughts and feelings and how they manifest within the physical body.


Repressed memories may suddenly manifest into thoughts. When this happens, these are powerful and can have a far-reaching effect. It is important to deal with repressed emotions and seriously, having awareness gives you an advantage.

“When I was trying out As If, I took the time to think about my learned behaviors, those gleaned through parental advice or, through witnessing behaviors. I also looked at my personal experiences. I did this because when events occur, we react by way of information and experiences, these become reference points for our actions. If you can change these behaviors or experiences, if you can use As If to make your response to any situation more positive, boy, will you notice a significant difference. Simply, it becomes a reference point for your mind.
As If can be used at any time and in any place.


Let’s consider that you have some seriously challenging situations ahead of you. You may feel unconfident and doubtful and in some cases, perhaps that dreaded job interview, you may even be filled with dread. If you can tap into the ‘As If’ system and start to act as if you are confident, your thoughts will naturally become more positive. You’ll visualize strong images of how you want to think and act.
Once you start to feel more confident, your actions become instinctive and learned.”

“You’ll learn to understand your thoughts and be in control, readily identifying the inner two-way communication and making it work for you. Let’s be clear here. Your mind is powerful, and once you tame your thoughts and use your mind in the best way possible, you’ll improve your life.”

“When you are alert and ready for anything in life, your posture is also likely to be good. When you are less than alert or feeling down, you are likely to adopt poor posture. Try adjusting your posture, do it right now, sit up straight and pull those shoulders back. I bet you start to feel better immediately.


There have been many experiments into body language and so this is not me just saying it. Psychologists discovered that emotions may also have a strong connection with specific body postures. During these experiments, people were asked to generate a strong negative emotion – let’s use fear as an example and to place their body in a position that for them, depicted fear. When they had done so, they were asked to remain in this position but to also try to generate happiness, they found it much harder to do so. So, this links body posture to emotions.
It’s impossible to not get stressed from time to time.

We all know that life is stressful at times, but, the lesson of the day is that it’s how you deal with it that is the most important. Have you ever noticed that some people do not seem to react to daily stressors? They just deal with it… right? Think about a time when you have felt highly stressed and perhaps the outcome was not so good. Afterwards, we often have to deal with regret or, kick ourselves when we respond badly, but our responses are fueled by our learned behaviors, our thoughts and feelings. When using body language, breathing techniques and As If, we can change our actions.


If you had to face a similarly difficult situation next time, and used the ‘as if’ process, you would be able to outwardly project very different emotions, feelings and actions and, nip any damaging thoughts in the bud.”

The Goddess Bibles

A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Externals indicate internal natural in distinctions


¶ To do this it is necessary to better understand our neighbors—to recognize that people differ from each other in their likes and dislikes, traits, talents, tendencies and capabilities. The combination of these makes each individual’s nature. It is not difficult to understand others for with each group of these traits there always goes its corresponding physical makeup—the externals whereby the internal is invariably indicated. This is true of every species on the globe and of every subdivision within each species.

Significance of Size, Shape and Structure
¶ All dogs belong to the same species but there is a great difference between the “nature” of a St. Bernard and that of a terrier, just as there is a decided difference between the natures of different human beings. But in both instances the actions, reactions and habits of each can be accurately anticipated on sight by the shape, size and structure of the two creatures.

Differences in Breed
¶ When a terrier comes into the room you instinctively draw away unless you want to be jumped at and greeted effusively. But you make no such movement to protect yourself from a St. Bernard because you read,

“on sight, the different natures of these two from their external appearance.

¶ You know a rose, a violet, a sunflower and an orchid and what perfume you are sure to find in each, by the same method. All are flowers and all belong to the same species, just as all human beings belong to the same species. But their respective size, shape and structure tell you in advance and on sight what their respective characteristics are.

The same is true of all human beings. They differ in certain fundamentals but always and invariably in accordance with their differences in size, shape and structure.

The Instinct of Self-Preservation
¶ The reason for this is plain. Goaded by the instinct of self-preservation, man, like all other living things, has made heroic efforts to meet the demands of his environment. He has been more successful than any other creature and is, as a result, the most complex organism on the earth. But his most baffling complexities resolve themselves into comparatively simple terms once it is recognized that each internal change brought about by his environment brought with it the corresponding external mechanism without which he could not have survived.”

The Goddess Bibles

A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Desire is an Essential Aspect to Everyone’s Life- Accepting that their will be bumps in the road

Desire is an essential and inevitable aspect of everyone’s life. There is an inner desire for perfection. The perfection of each passing day of our lives, the perfection of our relationships and our professions. If your mind revolves around a thought such as “ I am born to have a perfect life, I possess everything I need and acquire whatever I wish to do.” Well then, your off to a good start. You begin planning things accordingly. We start working towards the fulfillment of our so called desires. We start living our assumingely perfect life.

We start ignoring petty issues , which can be taken care of in the future. Why spoil the present , in thinking about the future? You say; I have a perfect life now, I can’t afford to ruin it. So, is this thought process incorrect or would you rather say imperfect with an imperfect dreamer lifestyle.

If you believe that you live in this dream life but you don’t, your not living in reality and therefore people might think that you begin to act like your never going to get it together. Unwanted emotions begin to enter your life. Fear, anxiety, disappointment.

Number 1- accept that their will be bumps in the road. Many people that are stuck in perfect situations are actually fearful of making mistakes and or failing. So many of us want our children to be perfectly happy. However, if we want our kids to be perfectly happy, then we must be comfortable with them making mistakes. We must make them able to rise to challenges when they occur.

This comes with practice, patience, bumps in the road, teaching moments, do overs and so on. They must be able to make mistakes and rise to the challenges. Recognizing and celebrating successes when they come are also a great thing to do , to celebrate their success is also your success!

If you dream of your young girl or boy to find their voice, being honest , open minded, empathetic, caring, helpful, understanding, and the likes; being perfect is not going to get her there. She or he must experience some mistakes and failures to practice these qualities to drive her forward towards success.

Remember , never let your mistakes stop you from moving forward. When we are perfectly imperfect we get the chance to Do Over, and do overs allow us to start fresh again. Realizing that you are simply you and that you are not in competition with anyone but yourself is a first step!

Let go of the overwhelming tendency to compare yourself with others. Throw out the words perfect or as good as and start with I am. Decide to celebrate who you are and what you are good at. What do you contribute to the world and the surrounding environment around you? When you do this people will follow your lead because they will see how great YOU are!

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Laura Zukerman

Owner and Founder At The Goddess Bibles A Memoir By Laura Zukerman

Becoming Your Inner Goddess

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