The term “reality” comes from the Latin word “res”, which means fact or thing. It also pertains to the actual existence. Ultimate reality, on the other hand, refers to those things that exist at its deepest. Your knowledge about reality may be largely incomplete, conscious or unconscious or highly systematic. It is structured and controls your life.
Your understanding of reality works as a filter and monitor incoming sensory signals. It also undergirds what you do with your life, what you believe in, what you think and feel and much more. Why Do You Need to Understand Reality?
An accurate understanding of reality is vital to human being. It helps you reconcile the diverse and conflicting claims of the secular world, modern science and religious faith. It also integrates multiple dimensions of your life, faith, thought and systematic framework that will offer you with everlasting strength.
If you understand reality, you can make better choices because you are familiar with what is real and not. You can also take away misconceptions and false beliefs which could lead to pain, disappointment and anxiety. Your knowledge about reality can also provide you with a great and deep satisfaction. It will also help you understand other people even more, thus making you more mature.
If you trust your inner guidance, it often leads you to take steps that are on placement with who you are. After doing this, you will feel harmony. But, there are times that you want to try new things. Even if your inner guidance tells you to take the jump, you believe that you lack self-confidence. Why is this the case?
In this case, you will surely ask yourself, “how do I develop my self-confidence?”
Before you begin your inner guidance, you have to ensure that you are in a good mood. Your mood will greatly influence this skill. It is also best to search for a safe and quiet place where you will never be disrupted. You also need to prepare a pencil or pen for recording key ideas.
You have to imagine how good you feel when you receive answers or turn inward. You also need to know that the longer you drift from yourself, the farther this may take to learn. It is also your duty to identify that negativity from the day may require to be released as you turn inmost.
What to Do as You Turn to Your Inner Guide? You need to start slowly. Calm yourself and recognize that you are in a quiet and safe atmosphere. It is also best to become aware of your body and let yourself become comfortable and relaxed. You also need to pay attention to the representations that your mind supplies you. In some cases, you will know your desires from the images that your mind provides. Then, jot down all these images for future purposes.
After Turning Your Inner Guide Take time reading what you have written. Then, you have to apply principles of rationality to the ideas if they are rational and healthy. Make sure that you learn how to turn up the volume of your inner voice. You also need to follow the good ideas that you have developed. You can also plan to attend any workshop related to learning rational thinking, solving your emotional problems, relaxation training, success training, goal setting and many more. Use these workshops to drive you to your preferred destinations.
Tips for Tapping Your Inner Guidance There are four simple tips on how to tap your inner guidance. These simple and effective tips include the following:
Make Your Life Simpler – Learning inner guidance is like a radiant light at the core of a garden. If you maintain your garden organized and clean, you can easily find your center and perceive the light. Open Up Your Space – Using garden as an example, you have to remove all the weeds. You also need to make your space for your inner guidance for great communication. Calm Your Mind – You have to remove all your worries and try to keep calm. You will soon find out that your inner guidance has a soft voice. Be Patient – During your first inner guidance, you will hear different voices. But, you should not lose hope. You just need to be patience and wait for it to happen.
“Five Biological Types
¶ Human Analysis differs from every other system of character analysis in that it classifies man, for the first time, into five types according to his biological evolution.
¶ It deals with man in the light of the most recent scientific discoveries. It estimates each individual according to his “human” qualities rather than his “character” or so-called “moral” qualities. In other words, it takes his measure as a human being and determines from his externals his chances for success in the world of today.
These Rules Work
¶ Every rule in this book is based on scientific data, has been proved to be accurate by investigations and surveys of all kinds of people in all parts of the world.
These rules do not work merely part of the time. They work all the time, under all conditions and apply to every individual of every race, every color, every country, every community and every family.
Through this latest human science you can learn to read people as easily as you read books—if you will take the little time and pains to learn the rules which compose your working alphabet.
“Do What We Want to Do
¶ It is easy to know what an individual will do under most circumstances because every human being does what he wants to do in the way he prefers to do it most of the time. If you doubt it try this test: bring to mind any intimate friends, or even that husband or wife, and note how few changes they have made in their way of doing things in twenty years!
¶ Every human being is born with preferences and predilections which manifest themselves from earliest childhood to death. These inborn tendencies are never obliterated and seldom controlled to any great extent, and then only by individuals who have learned the power of the mind over the body. Inasmuch as this knowledge is possessed by only a few, most of the people of the earth are blindly following the dictates of their inborn leanings.
Follow Our Bents
¶ In other words, more than ninety-nine per cent of all the people you know are following their natural bents in reacting to all their experiences—from the most trivial incidents to the most far-reaching emergencies.”
“Took It” from Grandmother
¶ The individual is seldom conscious of these habitual acts of his, much less of where he got them. The nearest he comes is to say he “got it from his father” or “she takes it from grandmother.” But where did grandmother get it?
Man No Mystery
¶ Science has taken the trouble to investigate and today we know not only where grandmother got it but what she did with it. She got it along with her size, shape and structure—in other words, from her type—and she did just what you and everybody else does with his type-characteristics. She acted in accordance with her type just as a canary sings like a canary instead of talking like a parrot, and just as a rose gives off rose perfume instead of violet.
This law holds throughout every species and explains man—who likes to think himself a deep mystery—as it explains every other creature.
The Hold of Habit
¶ Look around you in shop, office, field or home and you will find that the quick, alert, impulsive man is acting quickly, alertly and impulsively most of the time. Nothing less than a calamity slows him
“down and then only temporarily; while the slow, patient, mild and passive individual is acting slowly, patiently, mildly and passively in spite of all goads. Some overwhelming passion or crisis may speed him up momentarily but as soon as it fades he reverts to his old slow habits.
Significance of Fat, Bone and Muscle
¶ Human Analysis is the new science which shows you how to recognize the slow man, the quick man, the stubborn man, the yielding man, the leader, the learner, and all other basic kinds of men on sight from the shape, size and structure of their bodies.
Certain bodily shapes indicate predispositions to fatness, leanness, boniness, muscularity and nervousness, and this predisposition is so much a part of the warp and woof of the individual that he can not disguise it. The urge given him by this inborn mechanism is so strong as to be practically irresistible. Every experience of his life calls forth some kind of reaction and invariably the reaction will be similar, in every vital respect, to the reactions of other people who have bodies of the same general size, shape and structure as his own.”
“Reading People ¶ Learning to read men and women is a more delightful process than learning to read books, for every person you see is a true story, more romantic and absorbing than any ever bound in covers.
Learning to read people is also a simpler process than learning to read books because there are fewer letters in the human alphabet. Though man seems to the untrained eye a mystifying mass of “funny little marks,” he is not now difficult to analyze.
Only a Few Feelings ¶ This is because there are after all but a few kinds of human feelings. Some form of hunger, love, hate, fear, hope or ambition gives rise to every human emotion and every human thought.”
“Thoughts Bring Actions ¶ Now our actions follow our thoughts. Every thought, however transitory, causes muscular action, which leaves its trace in that part of the physical organism which is most closely allied to it.
Physiology and Psychology Interwoven ¶ Look into the mirror the next time you are angry, happy, surprised, tired or sorrowful and note the changes wrought by your emotions in your facial muscles.
Constant repetition of the same kinds of thoughts or emotions finally makes permanent changes in that part of the body which is physiologically related to these mental processes.
The Evolution of the Jaw ¶ The jaw is a good illustration of this alliance between the mind and the body. Its muscles and bones are so closely allied to the pugnacity instinct center in the brain that the slightest thought of combat causes the jaw muscles to stiffen. Let the thought of any actual physical encounter go through your mind and your jaw bone will automatically move upward and outward.
After a lifetime of combat, whether by fists or words, the jaw sets permanently a little more upward and outward—a little more like that of the bulldog. It keeps to this combative mold, “because,” says Mother Nature, the great efficiency expert, “if you are going to call on me constantly to stiffen that jaw I’ll fix it so it will stay that way and save myself the trouble.”
“Inheritance of Acquired Traits ¶ Thus the more combative jaw, having become permanent in the man’s organism, can be passed on to his children.
¶ Right here comes a most interesting law and one that has made possible the science of Human Analysis:
Law of Size ¶ The larger any part or organ the better its equipment for carrying out the work of that organ and the more does it tend to express itself. Nature IS an efficiency expert and doesn’t give you an oversupply of anything without demanding that you use it.
Jaws Becoming Smaller ¶ Our ancestors developed massive jaws as a result of constant combat. As fast as civilization decreased the necessity for combat Nature decreased the size of the average human jaw.
Meaning of the Big Jaw ¶ But wherever you see a large protruding jaw you see an individual “armed and engined,” for some kind of fighting. The large jaw always goes with a combative nature, whether it is found on a man or a woman, a child, a pugilist or a minister.”
“Exhibit a—The Irishman ¶ The large jaw, therefore, is seen to be both a result and a cause of certain things. As the inheritance of a fighting ancestor it is the result of millions of years of fighting in prehistoric times, and, like any other over-developed part or organ, it has an intense urge to express itself. This inherent urge is what makes the owner of that jaw “fight at the drop of the hat,” and often have “a chip on his shoulder.”
Natural Selection ¶ Thus, because every external characteristic is the result of natural laws, and chiefly of natural selection, the vital traits of any creature can be read from his externals. Every student of biology, anatomy, anthropology, ethnology or psychology is familiar with these facts.
Built to Fit ¶ Man’s organism has developed, altered, improved and evolved “down through the slow revolving years” with one instinctive aim—successful reaction to its environment. Every part has been laboriously constructed to that sole end. Because of this its functions are marked as clearly upon it as those of a grain elevator, a steamship or a piano.
“Survival of the Fittest ¶ Nature has no accidents, she wastes no material and everything has a purpose. If you put up a good fight to live she will usually come to your rescue and give you enough of whatever is needed to tide you over. If you don’t, she says you are not fit to people the earth and lets you go without a pang. Thus she weeds out all but the strong—and evolution marches on.
Causes of Racial Characteristics ¶ This inherent potentiality for altering the organism to meet the demands of the environment is especially noticeable in races and is the reason for most racial differences.
Differences in environment—climate, altitude and topography necessitated most of these physical differentiations which today enable us to know at a glance whether a man belongs to the white race, the yellow race, or the black race. The results of these differentiations and modifications will be told in the various chapters of this book.”
¶ So today we see man a highly evolved creature who not only acts but thinks and feels. All these thoughts, feelings and emotions are interrelated.
The body and the mind of man are so closely bound together that whatever affects one affects the other. An instantaneous change of mind instantly changes the muscles of the face. A violent thought instantly brings violent bodily movements.
Movies and Face Muscles ¶ The moving picture industry—said to be the third largest in the world—is based largely on this interrelation. This industry would become extinct if something were to happen to sever the connection between external expressions and the internal nature of men and women.
Tells Fundamentals ¶ How much do external characteristics tell about a man? They tell, with amazing accuracy, all the basic, fundamental principal traits of his nature. The size, shape and structure of a man’s body tell more important facts about his real self—what he thinks and what he does—than the average mother ever knows about her own child.”
“Learning to Read ¶ If this sounds impossible, if the seeming incongruity, multiplicity and heterogeneity of human qualities have baffled you, remember that this is exactly how the print in all books and newspapers baffled you before you learned to read.
Not long ago I was reading stories aloud to a three-year old. She wanted to “see the pictures,” and when told there were none had to be shown the book.
“What funny little marks!” she cried, pointing to the print. “How do you get stories out of them?”
Printing looked to all of us at first just masses of meaningless little marks.
But after a few days at school how things did begin to clear up! It wasn’t a jumble after all. There was something to it. It straightened itself out until the funny little marks became significant. Each of them had a meaning and the same meaning under all conditions. Through them your whole outlook on life became deepened and broadened—all because you learned the meaning of twenty-six little letters and their combinations!”
¶ To do this it is necessary to better understand our neighbors—to recognize that people differ from each other in their likes and dislikes, traits, talents, tendencies and capabilities. The combination of these makes each individual’s nature. It is not difficult to understand others for with each group of these traits there always goes its corresponding physical makeup—the externals whereby the internal is invariably indicated. This is true of every species on the globe and of every subdivision within each species.
Significance of Size, Shape and Structure ¶ All dogs belong to the same species but there is a great difference between the “nature” of a St. Bernard and that of a terrier, just as there is a decided difference between the natures of different human beings. But in both instances the actions, reactions and habits of each can be accurately anticipated on sight by the shape, size and structure of the two creatures.
Differences in Breed ¶ When a terrier comes into the room you instinctively draw away unless you want to be jumped at and greeted effusively. But you make no such movement to protect yourself from a St. Bernard because you read,
“on sight, the different natures of these two from their external appearance.
¶ You know a rose, a violet, a sunflower and an orchid and what perfume you are sure to find in each, by the same method. All are flowers and all belong to the same species, just as all human beings belong to the same species. But their respective size, shape and structure tell you in advance and on sight what their respective characteristics are.
The same is true of all human beings. They differ in certain fundamentals but always and invariably in accordance with their differences in size, shape and structure.
The Instinct of Self-Preservation ¶ The reason for this is plain. Goaded by the instinct of self-preservation, man, like all other living things, has made heroic efforts to meet the demands of his environment. He has been more successful than any other creature and is, as a result, the most complex organism on the earth. But his most baffling complexities resolve themselves into comparatively simple terms once it is recognized that each internal change brought about by his environment brought with it the corresponding external mechanism without which he could not have survived.”
A typically healthy person may have difficulty understanding someone who is suffering from anorexia. – After all, why would anyone want to consciously starve themselves? It’s critical, then, that an understanding of the way anorexia manipulates the mind and cause issues with body image acceptance, be achieved in order to better understand such patients. Developing an understanding also helps avoid pushing them even further into their illness.
Anyone suffering from issues stemming from body image acceptance has difficulty correlating the person they see in the mirror with the person they see in their head. The version of themselves that exists internally will override even the direst physical issues, issues that are obvious to everyone but them. Whether it is because of a need to exert control over at least one aspect of their lives or because they feel the need for approval, the nature of the eating disorder quickly overtakes a person through an obsession with their weight, the calories they consume and the amount of exercise they perform. This obsession becomes the cornerstone of an individual with anorexia. Other activities and interests fall by the wayside.
Anorexia leads sufferers to believe that even healthy foods are bad for them, even if there is no logical evidence to support these beliefs. In fact there can be nothing but evidence to the contrary, but the person suffering from anorexia does not listen to reason and will assert their irrational claims regardless. This disease twists even the most logical arguments a loved one can pose – and the person suffering from this disease will become more obstinate the harder they are pressed.
They can even begin to notice their body’s cries for help – weakness, fatigue, feeling faint – and interpret them as positive, even desirable. Instead of reading these as signs that they need to care for themselves, they strive for these symptoms and will associate them with success.
It’s key to remember that although expressions of concern are natural, a person suffering from anorexia can interpret these expressions as positive reinforcement. Just as feeling faint and looking gaunt are something to strive for, hearing others express concern only seems to reinforce that individual’s belief that they are succeeding.
Because anorexia is so all consuming, it cannot be effectively treated by the average person. Medical supervision, along with therapy to assess and treat the root causes of the disease and its effects on the brain are necessary if a person suffering from this disease is to recover.
Mental health refers to our cognitive, behavioral, and emotional wellbeing – it is all about how we think, feel, and behave. The term ‘mental health‘ is sometimes used to mean an absence of a mental disorder. Mental health can affect daily life, relationships, and even physical health.
To love yourself begins with feeling secure with who you are. It is also about who you are becoming. You do not need permission from others, to flourish. It is to know yourself and your self worth. Know what you care about and know what you stand for. This is to be aware of your thoughts, feelings and perceptions. Your ability to say no is now in place.
You now have developed physical and sexual boundaries to help you feel safe. You are now able to prioritize your decision making process. This informs you about who you can be vulnerable with and who you must avoid.
You know that when you make a mistake , it does not make you a mistake. You know where you end and others begin. This also frees up to know that what you feel is not what someone else feels. Also what someone else thinks is not necessarily what you think.
You have become compassionate with yourself and supportive of your own endeavors. You enjoy traveling and adventure, where you learn and grow and have these unexpected moments.
You began to learn , explore and think for yourself. You say what you mean and you mean what you say, you stick to your word. You will apologize if you do not and rectify the situation at hand.
You see yourself accurately not worse, nor better than you are, but just as you are. You know who you are, what you prefer, what your needs are and what your interested in. You also express these preferences by the way of choices that you make.
You begin to do what you say your going to do, even if the commitment is only to yourself. You develop an appropriate trust with yourself and others over time. Your not overly trusting, just the right amount.
You give and receive love and care as well as respect, consistently. Also without having to be told. You behave according to your values. About, what it means to be a person, the person you want to be.
You know that you are responsible for your own happiness, you begin to weigh the consequences of actions on yourself and then on others. You tell the truth and your okay if someone else does not like this.
Your compassionate, empathetic and kind to others. This does not mean that you are a people pleaser. You begin to express what you want without any form of manipulation. You do this without responding with the silent treatment, or with aggression or passive aggressiveness.
Owner and Founder At The Goddess Bibles A Memoir By Laura Zukerman