CHAPTER ONE: WHAT IS CONFIDENCE?
with confidence, you can give yourself that social edge which makes people
admire and look up to you. To put it in clear terms, confidence is believing
in yourself and having no anxiety at all. Generally, you can show
confidence in various facets of life, but self-confidence (which is the main subject of this book) means being okay with who you are and loving yourself. Self-confidence works hand in hand with self-esteem and self-esteem means that you trust yourself to do what is right and to make the right decisions.In order for you to have a practical understanding of what self-confidence is, let’s make use of an illustration. You are together with some of your colleagues at work and there are some very loud people there. Everyone present is about to make a decision you think will cost the company a whole lot of money. To avoid this, you
share your opinion and tell the group that the company will record a huge loss if they go ahead with their plan. This is what self-confidence is—being so sure about your opinion that you speak out against the popular opinion. In this scenario, you have shown that you have enough confidence to confront people who have more resources and to face whatever consequence may come up. By doing this, you have increased your appeal to the people around and your boss,
who is in the group now, has a deep respect for you. You have shown that you are not someone who goes with the flow or who cannot think for himself or herself. On the other hand, someone who has no confidence will sit quietly and agree with whatever the popular opinion is. Because they do not trust their own judgment, they’ll suspect the idea they have is wrong and that it will eventually damage the finances of the company for that year. People who lack self-confidence fear people around will shut
them up, no one will pay any attention to them, or that they’ll even get fired. They lack the deep confidence which is needed to back up their convictions and as a result of this, they miss their opportunity to prove themselves. Now, you might be thinking that the right thing for you to do is to just make your voice heard regardless of where and when, but this is not what being confident means. Being confrontational and contradicting people at every opportunity you get is
overcompensation and not confidence. In fact, it could be one of the biggest mistakes you make when trying to show that you are confident.
Managing risk is something analyzers excel at and it could even be seen as their greatest strength. If you happen to work with one of them, you would notice they leave zero margin for errors, and this shows they mean business. After collecting the opinions, data, and thoughts, they will then manage the risk to the lowest point to which it can be managed.
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Another thing analyzers excel at is sticking to rules and regulations. While most of us would feel they are tedious and restricting, analyzers perform best when there are rules and regulations. To be honest, they find it meaningless to live without them. The only time they experience peace in their minds is when the task they are given is set
within boundaries they can keep a close eye on.
Analyzers are completely in love with systems; routines also work well for them. Sound strange? Well, the reason why this is so is because they enjoy doing things in ways that can be followed step-by-step from start to finish, and preferably without errors. If you want to gain the favor of an analyzer, one thing you could do is to provide a systematic solution to a problem they encounter. Security is a major concern to an analyzer and before they can make any decision, they put the entire plan into consideration first. If plan A fails to work, then B must be ready to. Due to the fact that they gather data and analyze it, it is possible for them to solve any problem they might face in the safest way possible.
Most times, analyzers do not approach other people to start conversations, and this is completely normal to them. Initiating conversations or making the first move to interact with others is simply not their thing. Even in a brainstorming session, an analyzer would wait for other people to make their suggestions and speak their minds
first before he or she speaks. Inflexibility is one other weakness analyzers have. It is very rare for you to find an
analyzer who adapts easily to new cultures. If you try to introduce new accounting software to an analyzer, for example, he or she would likely give a thousand reasons why it isn’t needed and let you know how comfortable he or she is using the current
one he or she has. Unless an analyzer sees a real need to try out the software, he or she would rather not take that “risk.”
An analyzer will do all he or she can to hide emotions so as not to appear weak to other people. Definitely, there are a lot of reasons why they would not want to show their emotions to others, but the general reason is so they can feel safe and protected.
9 Personality types In order for them to come up with a totally perfect plan, analyzers will spend a huge amount of time and energy to get the right data. At certain times, this could take much longer than the required time, which could lead to expending more resources like human labor and money as well.
HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH AN ANALYZER EFFECTIVELY?
In order for you to deal with an analyzer effectively, you will likely need to employ some skills, but some practical ways by which you can do this include:
- Telling them things they are not aware of. This is pretty important, especially during meetings—if you tell an analyzer something he or she already knows, it will only irritate him or her. On the other hand, it will be very easy for you to gain their favor if you provide them with information that can make solving a problem very easy.
- Making friends through their abilities. Most times, analyzers only use their abilities to build friendships or to gain attention rather than their true selves. If it is possible for you to create an environment in which they can build relationships or make friends through their abilities, such as working on a big
project together, it will make things much better for them.
- Encouraging them to be less critical of people and things. No doubt, analyzers are critics, but you can also help them reduce the intensity. You can do this by assuring them that the right time to implement the strategies they have been working on is now and there is no need to worry about errors that may happen.
You will need to convince them and encourage them as well.
This is all you need to know about an analyzer’s attributes, and one thing to take note of is when it comes to dealing with analyzers, security and data are of the utmost importance. In the following chapter, we will talk about another personality, which is the supporter, and all you need to know about it.
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CHAPTER TWO: THE SUPPORTER PERSONALITY
eople with the supporter personality can be seen all around you. When you
have troubles concerning your emotions, they are the ones that you would first
turn to and this is because they are very friendly. When you have a challenge,
he or she is there to listen and this is why they are called the supporters. It is very easy
for people to put all their trust in them and to cast all their burdens on them. Why is
Supporters are friendly with people and it is very easy for them to be liked. People
usually trust supporters because they can care for them, encourage them, and
support them. It is because of the comfort they offer that you would rather talk to a
supporter than an analyzer when you break up with your boyfriend of eight years.
Being people-oriented comes naturally to them and they try their best to avoid
personal conflict with other people, even at their own expense. It becomes really
difficult for a supporter to reject someone, and they are ready to please whoever they
They also find it easy to interact with people and when people are around, they blend
in with the conversation and go with the flow. Supporters allow other people to initiate
any kind of activity but at the same time, they are not interested in impressing other
people. People like this look so harmless and don’t come off as threats to others in
any way. Even when threatened, supporters will not make it known publicly.
Sometimes, they might even bottle up their feelings to the point of depression, which
could be very harmful.
Supporters always put others first. In other words, they think about other people
before they think about themselves. This isn’t as a result of inadequacy but it is simply
their nature. They always consider others first regardless of whatever rewards or
incentives they might get in return.
Serving others is something they find easy to do and they have no problem at all with
doing it. Most times, supporters are the ones who will do the dirty work that others
find difficult to do.
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If you need someone who will listen to you pour out all the feelings you have bottled up for a long time, a supporter is the smart choice. The patience and encouragement they will show you will be unbelievable.
When it comes to work, they are always willing to be supervised by their superiors, and taking commands as well as completing the tasks assigned to them comes easily to them. WEAKNESSES One weakness, which is peculiar to people with the supporter personality, is that they
always try to please everyone. No matter the kind of decisions we want to make, there will always be people who are not in favor of this. Supporters, however, will find it difficult to come to terms with this and they’ll end up trying to please everyone. Planning and setting goals does not come easily to them and although they submit easily to authorities when executing plans, they don’t enjoy goal-setting and making plans.
Supporters will withhold information that is unpleasant to the hearer when possible and this is one of their greatest setbacks. Rather than see you feel bad, they would rather not say anything.
HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH A SUPPORTER EFFECTIVELY?
No doubt, supporters may seem nice and easy-going, but at the same time, this kind of personality can be quite dangerous because you never know when a supporter is going to have an outburst. Because they carry the burdens of others, it is very common to find out they are depressed. However, some things that can be useful when dealing with a supporter include:
- Showing your appreciation towards them. Although they do not care for praise and rewards, encouraging them and showing genuine appreciation for what they have done could go a really long way. Think about those times when you were down and he or she was there for you—now is the time for you to repay the kindness.
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- Helping them to stand up for themselves. True, it is very rare for a supporter to speak what is really in his or her mind, but with the right kind of motivation, it is possible. Let them realize that they also have the right to voice their thoughts and since this isn’t normal for them, you can push them a bit to ensure this. Not taking them for granted. Now that we have discussed all there is to know about supporters and you know they’ll likely do whatever you ask, taking them for granted is a total no. Before you try to exploit them or push them to the limit, remember they are human beings like you too.
Now, you know about the supporter personality and understand why they always put people first. When dealing with someone with this kind of personality, keep in mind that you should never take them for granted and that acknowledging them is important.